Dr. Carmen Harra is a woman who works off of positivity. She is a psychologist who gives relationship advice and does intuitive readings for celebrities in Hollywood and also in her native Miami, FL.
Her first book “Everyday Karma” was published almost twenty years ago and she’s published half a dozen titles after that one since 2015 including ” Signs” “The Trinity of Health” and “Wholeliness”. Aside from psychology and writing, Dr. Harra also provides tons of relationship advice both personal and with dealing with a partner.
Not only is she an author but she has had a stint in broadcasting by hosting radio shows on HAY HOUSE Radio and WABC. With a worldwide clientele base and having been born in Romania, she’s also been featured on the New York Times, the Daily News, Today, and Good Morning America.
In this blog post we will see how Dr. Harra describes resolutions and she will break down through a relationship quiz what type of questions we should be asking ourselves about resolutions and relationships.
What type of resolutions have you made previously in the past?
Have you felt obligated to keep them?
Why is it that you believe you have a difficult time keeping those resolutions?
Are your resolutions based on reality or are they based on fantasy?
What kind of process do you go through while you set resolutions?
According to Dr. Harra the difficulty lies in actually uncovering the purpose of our relationships, not finding one. She is frank on that four types of romantic relationships exist! The important way to figure out which one is to step out of the box of your emotions and ask yourself facts about the situation. Also answer based on the actual truth vs. what you wish to be true within your relationship.
Below we will list a few types of questions, each of the questions will have a few answers or categories. Based on your personal answers you should be able to gauge where you stand in your relationship. The categories are dynamics, communication, initial contact, things you would change, and your actual emotions towards that person.
Is your life more routine? To do lists, errands, work, kids, etc.
Is your life more spontaneous?
Do you discuss openly things are you like constantly having fun?
Is your life based off sex and chemistry is it all physical but very little intellectual?
Is your life constant negativity, arguments, and disaccord?
Now that we’ve listed those four questions there are a few ways that Dr. Harra says you can recognize such signs and be able to come to terms with where your relationship lies. The first is to analyze how and where you communicate, by doing so you should be able to see where you want your relationship to be in five years. She says communication is key to a relationship. Things you may find attractive in a partner are their spirit, their physique, their intelligence, and or their logic. How you view them, allows you to see what you keep closest in the relationship despite what that may be, it sets the tone for what the relationship is. By tone think unconditional, tense, habit based, etc.
According to all of this analysis Dr. Harra explains to us the four types of romantic relationships:
1. Transitory Relationships- help us out of a learning time or a trying time in our life. They are there to help us with our five senses to get through a significant part of our life. Once the lust and physical attraction ends, typically so does the relationship.
2. Karmic Relationships- karma is a culmination of all of good and bad that we have done in our lives. After the couple finds or resolves some type of karma, they go their separate ways.
3. Compromise- the most common of the four types, which involves mutually agreeing on things like comfort and finances in order to prosper and move forward within a romantic relationship. The issue
lies in that one of both people may not feel completely fulfilled.
4. Soulful – The two people instantly know each other and go together perfectly. Like all relationships there are times of tribulation but typically they work extremely will together, feel like they have known each other forever and feel satisfied in their relationship.